The dogmatic hivemind of Allyship (and performative activism)
I've got some thoughts...
You know that phrase "if you have to say you're not racist, that means you are!" Now, obviously I think that's a ridiculous theory because that conclusion is based on personal feelings and not fact.
An excerpt from "How to be an antiracist", written by Ibram X. Kendi reads the following: "There is no in-between safe space of ‘not racist.’ The claim of ‘not racist’ neutrality is a mask for racism.”
What that phrase means is that if someone were to defend themselves as "not a racist", assuming they were falsely accused, that I would confirm their racism.
Which means, if someone were to defend themselves as "not a transphobe", that would be proof of transphobia.
And if you say you're not a misogynist, CLEARLY you are.
This is exactly why you'll very rarely see me protesting against any insults that are thrown my way because I can't control what people believe, I can only encourage them to hear me out.
Interestingly enough, this week I was bombarded with hateful comments on Twitter, as I was working on the latest episode of Cancel This! The premise of the video reviews some of the backlash following my "transphobic comments" and also challenges viewers to consider the consequences of their reactions to hate speech, something that many "allies" fail to consider as they're smashing their keyboard in the name of human rights.
Ironically, no amount of friendships with transsexuals would satisfy these trans allies before admitting that their assessment of my "transphobia" is incorrect. Similarly, the diversity of thought that's neglected within the trans community goes on deaf ears, as it is in any community fueled by 'identity'.
(If an opinion is transphobic, what logical explanation is there when a transsexual shares the same opinion? Do they hate themselves? Are they giving cover to the oppressors? Yep, that must be it...)
It shouldn't be a surprise to you that I've dealt with cancel culture in the past, all for various opinions. I've never apologized for having said opinions and I don't plan on doing so for speaking the TRUTH that trans women are MEN.
All attempts to 'drag me' on social media for my 'harmful' comments have consistently resulted in more publicity for my channel, more support and of course, new connections.
Is it because I'm pandering to all the bigots' and Trumpies?
Or is it because society desperately needs to hear truth instead of feelings? I guess we'll never know.
In any case, if the attempts to ruin my life are futile, I can't help but wonder why do they still do it?
The stove is hot, why did you touch it?
That dog will bite you, why did you pet it?
Those hateful comments boost my visibility, so why do you leave them?
To spread awareness that I'm "transphobic"? Okay, after 100 or so retweets - I think everyone is aware. Now what?
Did it change my opinion?
Has your "activism" of leaving mean comments rendered the results that will legitimately help your cause?
No, of course not. So what's the point?
Is it because you crave inclusion?
Do you want to fit in? Or are you simply reacting because you want to do good in the world? (that I can respect).
Regardless, what I saw this week is nothing new to me. And while I'd hope that people will eventually open their eyes to see the intentional, GLOBAL division happening, I fear that nothing will change if society keeps avoiding tough conversations.
As much as I hate waking up to hundreds of strangers calling me every name in the book, I have no choice, WE have no choice. I'm sure people wonder "when will gothix stop having hot takes?", and the answer to that is: when you realize that I have the FREEDOM to speak and you have the power to IGNORE me.
Silencing me to root out 'bad opinions' (to your standards) is not activism, it's fascism. Wear the label and own it, but that's what it is. This isn't up for debate.
Sorry if that's a little too harsh, but I'm deeply concerned with the lack of self awareness and consideration of the consequences that follow combative and dogmatic "activism".
That said, I voted for Trump this past election, but I once suffered from severe trump derangement syndrome and had no issues writing MAGA supporters off as a racists.
You know what I discovered after I left the confides of my all inclusive echo chamber of a safe space? I discovered that there were human beings outside of those spaces. But because I was entrenched in woke/Marxist ideology, I never bothered to have a conversation with these people.
The women who feel like they're being erased because their bathrooms, sports and pregnancies are politicized for not being "inclusive" enough for biological men. (what the hell is a birthing person?)
The black conservatives that are viewed as nothing more than a coon, house nigger, bootlicker and a slew of other names by those with #BLM in their Twitter bio.
The black families of those lost someone to gang violence but are never supported by the media or the community unless it involves a WHITE cop.
The men who are told their masculinity and social norms are TOO toxic for a society saturated by pronouns.
The artists that are afraid to create because their comics aren't inclusive enough, their movies aren't diverse enough, and their comedy is insensitive because "jokes should never come at the expense of someone's FEELINGS".
Seriously, who goes to a comedy club just to be offended?
Our culture is suffering and make no mistake, it's by design.
Most people have figured it out, but I suspect if you're enraged while reading this, you're one of the many who haven't yet.
Your feelings, empathy and moral compass is being weaponized without you even realizing it. Divide and conquer is in full swing and you're desire to help the "marginalized" is contributing to the disorder.
Take a step back, and ask yourself - what does my safe space look like?
Do the members repeat the same dogma without considering different opinions?
Has your group cultivated an US versus THEM mentality?
What everyone's political leaning?
If you answered yes to any of these, you're not in a safe space. You're in a curated cult. The good news is, you can fix this by trying 3 things:
1. Be willing to listen to those you disagree with.
2. Be willing to have your beliefs challenged
3. Learn to have enough humility to admit when you're wrong
If you can commit to the above, it will open your eyes for the better. Because life isn't about solving every problem.
It's about finding the most efficient way to live WITH those problems.
Be good xo